Assertiveness Skills
Standing up for yourself and your beliefs is necessary for healthy relationships at home, work, and play. An assertive person is able to respect the convictions of another while clearly expressing his or her own needs and wants.
Types of Personalities:
Many people confuse being assertive with being aggressive. While assertive people can respectfully communicate their desires, aggressive people violate the values of others. Here are some common categories of communication styles:
Assertiveness Benefits
Being assertive has many advantages as opposed to operating as a passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive person. Because you respect yourself and your thoughts others will see this as well. In turn, they will respect and value your thoughts and opinions more. You are also free to exercise the right to say no and not assume too many responsibilities. In addition, an assertive person can enjoy these benefits:
Assertive or not?
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to assess whether you use assertive communication with others or not.
Growing in Assertiveness
Being assertive may not come naturally to everyone. Just because your typical communication style differs doesn’t mean that you can’t become more assertive. Here are some practical ways to become a more effective communicator and stand up for yourself:
An assertive person learns to choose their battles wisely because not every argument is worth it. Holding a grudge is never helpful, so sometimes you have to let the issue go. You may not be able to win every argument, and some people may not be able to hear your thoughts. But when the moment presents itself, an assertive person is able to stand up, speak clearly and calmly, and be heard.
Sources:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/assertive/art-20044644
http://well.wvu.edu/articles/becoming_assertive__not_aggressive
http://cmhc.utexas.edu/assertiveness.html
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